Resiliency is a key part of managing change effectively but it can also be about hanging on over a long period of stress. If you believe that the best way to build up stress-hardiness is to develop bounce-back skills which are done by being knocked down and getting back up again, then how can you find some mental buoyancy when it feels as if you are being held underwater? Sometimes referred to as the 9 C’s, think about how you are doing in each of the following categories:
- Control– It can be hard to feel like you have much control when the things getting you down are large like the economy, the war, or global warming. Instead, focus on where you DO have control, and take it! Save, send packages to those who are serving in the military and are stationed in combat areas, and recycle (while wearing an extra sweater).
- Connection – Take time and make time to be with people you care about and those who make you laugh at work, at home, and in the community.
- Commitment– Dedicate time to causes that hold a place of importance for you. Your neighborhood association, the local school, a charity all can use your efforts, not just over the holidays, but all year long.
- Confidence – Know what you do well and own it. Everyone has a skill or talent that they can count on so know what yours is.
- Creativity – New ways of doing things can spark energy and enthusiasm when there is a little to go around. Come up with ideas about changing up the usual.
- Capability – You may have the potential to do things you are not doing now. Most people are more resourceful than they think they are.
- Compassion – As tough as you have it, there are always others who have it worse off. Showing your concern for others not only mean a lot to them, it helps get your focus off of you for a while.
- Communication – Talking about what you are thinking and feeling with other people can lighten your load and allows others to provide support.
- Collaboration – Going it alone can be the most exhausting part of stress but working with others to find solutions can take some of the pressure off your shoulders. Finding partners reduces the sense of isolation that comes with fatigue.